Someone who has been in the same stifled and frustrated situation and has reached the same conclusions and mind set as we do. Grown-up people who want to share and explore experiences that we have all denied ourselves at some point due to the lives we have found ourselves in, where social and peer pressure have meant that our own embarrassment or fear of ridicule and betrayal have resulted in a reserved and even defensive appearance. But for whom the desire and ache remains more powerful than ever. That all sounds a bit heavy but there is nothing sinister, just the affect of a ‘what would the neighbours say’ situation we all get into when we are to immature to realise. The thing that intrigued me about the whole internet approach is that no one on the site has any peer pressure attached to any liai; it is a clean sheet to explore. So what we seek is someone were we can all be totally honest with ourselves and each other – there is no pretence, no defensive curtailment. Where we are all free to ask anything, but equally accept any response without question. Not judge but likewise not comply with anything we are not completely comfortable with, and free to say so either way. We seek unselfish and considerate people to explore and share, in trust and confidence, to not have to panic or hold regret just because of what others may think. who like I have respect for themselves and for others, who derive as much pleasure giving, who understand that consideration and empathy is always returned especially if it is not assumed. We seek someone to share time with as and when without the pressure of expecting anyone to conform unless they want to; where we just take the moments for what they are. The a physical aspect is after all the rea we are all paying to use this site, but there has to be a spark in the first place for a physical side to develop, meeting of the minds if you like, a mutual attraction. I love to please and that is driven by desire, we all know when the initial attraction is there or not. Desire and passion builds from there. So we seek intelligence, people who understand that a large part, the best part of erotic starts in the mind, that passion, breathless passion, is driven from the desire and arousal that we create in our imaginations, the expectation and excitement as we explore and explain our fantasies. We seek either an ongoing relationship as a one off , if possible, 3 encounters expose the best, the first being rushed and fumbled driven by want and lust, the second more explorative as we learn of each other and open our desires, and the third where we start to go all out (in a strictly confidential moment) to give each other the chance to experience our real desires. If we are not for you then I wish you well, but if I may have hit a spot then maybe we could take it further – slowly and with no pressure.